Where Do I Meet My Spouse?

Would you like me to tell you where I met my husband? Take a guess. I am very close to telling you. Perhaps I should ask you the question instead. Where did you meet your spouse? Where would you like to meet your spouse? Would you like to meet your spouse at work, school, a spiritual gathering, a social gathering, your hometown or on social media? Which place is most important?

I have heard people say where you meet your spouse goes a long way in determining how long your relationship will last. While I do not totally disagree with that statement, I believe that other factors carry more weight.

If you would like to meet your partner at church, remember that the church is like a hospital where different kinds of people visit to get better. So, there is no guarantee that meeting your spouse in the church will make your marriage to be perfect. You can also meet a good person in a social club.

My take is that instead of focusing on the place where you would like to meet your spouse, focus on the state your spouse will meet you. 

If you meet your spouse today will he/she find you whole? Do you have issues you are dealing with that you feel your partner will solve? Are you heartbroken, troubled, and insecure? Your state of mind needs to be intact for your marriage to work. Marriage is not the place where you find completeness. If you feel incomplete without a man, that void will not be filled when you meet him.

If you meet your spouse today, will he/she find you working on purpose? Do you know what kind of life you want to live? Do you have the blueprints of your life? Do you have any vision of your future or do you leave things to chance? You must be busy with your life while single: busy with purpose, career growth, and self-development.  This makes you a person of quality and also helps you bring value to the relationship.

If you meet your spouse today, will he find you happy and loving?  If you are unhappy with yourself, no one will make you happier. For you to effectively give love, you have to “be” love. You have to come to a place of self-love, where you appreciate who you are, know your worth, and embrace your uniqueness. 

In summary, the place you meet your spouse is not as important as the state your spouse meets you. I chose to focus on you because, if you are the right partner, you will be able to identify the right partner. If you focus on the state your partner meets you and you intentionally work on improving yourself, you are one step ahead of having a successful relationship and marriage.

N/B: I met him in a musical concert