The Love Code

Are you tired of thinking out loud or responding to “God when” on other people’s post? Are you tired of heartbreaks and emotional instability? Have you given up on having a beautiful relationship and marriage?

If you will enjoy the juice of a lasting relationship and marriage, you need to know and embrace these triple T’s that I am about to share with you.

The first T is Talk. Simple right? You have to be prepared to talk. Both parties must be willing to communicate with each other. You should see your partner as your best friend. Someone  who you can freely share anything and everything with , without feeling uncomfortable. Depending on your personality and background, it may not be easy to share everything with your ppartnerat first but this quality can be  built on overtime. One thing talking does for your relationship  is that it, it builds friendship and companionship. It helps you to understand each other and you tend to know if you can fit into the profile of the other person as you communicate.

The next T is transparency. This is like a follow up on the previous T. For purposeful relationships leading to marriage as well as marriage relationships, both parties need to be open to each other. There are levels to openness. You cannot meet someone today and share your life’s history with that person, NO. When you define your relationship and you are certain this relationship is leading to marriage, it is important that you share important and necessary information with each other. Your partner should know your source of livelihood, family, educational background, vision, purpose, hobbies and so many other important things. Being open will streamline expectations and narrow the gap of uncertainties. You need to also share your past, good or ugly with your spouse or to be spouse. Any information that could materially affect the relationship if made open needs to be communicated. You cannot afford to hide things in a bid to protect the relationship, your secret will eventually lead to a short-lived relationship

The final T is truthfulness. It is easy to talk you know. I remember as a teenager back then, most telecommunication networks gave free minutes to call at midnight and I would be on call almost every night. Guess what we were discussing? Nothing particularly relevant to build our lives. You can be on the phone all day to your spouse but you have to be intentional about the things you discuss and the truth you disclose. Do not lie to cover the truth. Do not give half truth as well. It is good to be open but it is better to be open and truthful. When your spouse knows that he/she can count on your words any time, any day, he/she will be more than willing to share all their experiences with you. Most importantly, do not use the information shared with you in private to judge or blackmail your partner in the future. Maturity requires that you treat each circumstances separately. Be objective in your daily interactions and be considerate in words and actions.

You do not need to be perfect to have a perfect relationship. In fact, there are no perfect relationships, just two people willing to work on their imperfections. The steps above may start with one partner giving more but the other partner should be flexible and quick to adjust to make the ride an easy and enjoyable one.

Are you ready to inculcate all three T's in your relationship?

Give it a yes.